I spent a good part of last week with young ambitious ladies and the topic of discussion was mensuration. When was the first time they had it? What was their reaction to it? What was their general attitude at the beginning?
I had a hypothesis before talking to these ladies. If they were anything like me they would stumble into a life of confusion termed womanhood. Words like woman and been lady like will be used to define you. You will be given your first purse. But, what do you put in a purse? You do not have any valuables at that age. You just want to continue playing and been you. However, you cannot can you? You are now a woman. Regardless of whatever that means you must adhere to a set of invisible rules and societal guides.
I guess mensuration is the truest mark of womanhood. As women there are only three transition periods in our lives; when we start our periods, when we get married and when we give birth. There is a lot of unexplainable terminologies in the first one. I am neither married nor have kids thus I cannot be an expert in the other two life altering events. However, I can talk about mensuration. The phrase “YOU ARE NOW A WOMAN”I believe is traumatizing and outright misleading. Can you imagine telling a 11 year old that and expect her to understand what you mean?
By a show of hands how many knew what that meant at the time of starting your period? How many even know what that means now? Why do we throw it out as if there is a standard definition of been “woman”. Why should I stop been Munira and be a “woman”?
It is something that confuses us and for the rest of our lives we must grasp in the dark trying to understand what been a woman is. Our identity as a basic human prior to “womanhood” is expected to be erased. If I liked playing in the dirt I had to give up the joy of that because I am a woman? What was wrong with the dirt playing me? Did I have to change the way I behaved, interacted and carried myself because of a perfectly biological change?
This problem is not only a “WOMAN” thing I have also heard be a “MAN” what does that mean people. Can someone lead me to a definition of these two words so that I can properly live as a WOMAN a title I had no idea I was been judged on?
What are your thoughts on this?
What is woman to you?
Until next time,