I had a somewhat interesting conversation with a man earlier on this month. He said that there is inequality of empowerment between the sexes. We as the human race made our first mistake by empowering men and leaving women behind. We are currently making our second mistake, doing the reverse.
I do understand that when we empowered women men were left behind. There has been a lot of women by women for women initiatives. So where does the man fit in all this? More importantly, whose responsibility is it to ensure that men are not left behind? While we are answering these questions who is to blame for the downfall of the male species?
I believe many men are anti-feminism because it is a threat to their existence. For many years men have been providers and protectors. Now that women have been economically empowered thus, socially empowered what is the role of the man? While all this wonderful and glorious changes were happening in womanhood why did the man stagnate?
I guess the question I am trying to solve is who is in charge of defining the role of a man? Am I responsible to tell my spouse what I want from a spouse or should he know? Should his mother have taught him how to treat women or his father? Should I teach my brothers that men should not wait on their wives to cook for them? Away from women empowerment and lack of men empowerment. Is it practical in our current society to have such rigid family roles. The truth of the matter is women are doing jobs that were predominately a man’s job. Men are doing jobs that would be traditionally a woman’s job. The previous demarcation is now blurred.
Should we hope that as women evolve somehow men will eventually evolve as well? Should men come together to empower men? Or should women take up that role and teach men what kind of man he should be? But, what happens when that definition changes? Or there is differentiation in interpretation of that definition?
This post seems to be filled with more questions than answers doesn’t it? There is a gap. I have noticed it with my brothers, with my relatives and with my families. We as a community are raising girls to reach for the stars. We tell our girls that no man should define you in the same breath we tell a man he needs a submissive glorified help as a wife. We are setting up a clash of the sexes here. Who should be the catalyst of change? Men or Women?
Until next time,