I went for a talk a few months back. The speaker was a well dressed charismatic woman. She commanded the room beautifully. She was comfortable on stage. I started admiring her. She was a successful business woman and I was looking for a successful business woman to have a conversation with.
After her talk I went up to her to ask her perspective. I had been wondering how to balance my potential job and Inteco. On one side I need the money and the experience the job would satisfy both but, Inteco was my passion. She told me that I must drop one. She said I was been greedy I would either have to put Inteco on hold while I save or not get the job. If you know my story you will know both her options were not going to work for me. If you do not know my story now you now know both options were not going to work.
At first I was mad. Then I realized I was at fault. I should not have asked for advice in the first place. She had moved from employment to self employment. She did not juggle both like what I intend to do. Her level of experience in such a scenario is at zero. She had no experience in juggling both thus, she could not give advice on it.
This realization was my biggest lesson this year thus far. There are times that we are stuck and we look for advice. At those time we are so desperate that we do not critic the person giving the advice. Other times, the person’s charm and confidence makes us feel they know what they are talking about. But, when you peel off those layers you will realize they are as clueless as you. Unfortunately, these are people who we think highly of and expect to guide us accordingly.
I have never been the person to be told it cannot be done and I accept. Her words motivated me to prove her wrong. She is not in my situation, she does not have the resources I have and most importantly she does not have the will power I have. For all those who have told you no, it cannot be done, use their words as fuel. They do not have your vision. They have no business telling you what not to do.
Until next time,