I am feeling all shades of gratitude lately. Plus, I am in a VERY good place. My heart and mind are at ease. I feel this is the best to share my 2 cents with you. I cannot believe I was 16 6 years ago ( I am growing old!! It is official). Let us get right into it.
Dear 16 year old me,
I am you in the future so do not freak out.
At 16 I know your problems are justified. I know your world revolves around the people you spend everyday with in school. I know their opinion matters a lot to you.
Despite of all that I feel you know who you are as a person. Your core values have never changed they are simply more refined. You will divert from your path but, you will come right back. It is how you have to learn what you do not want in your life.
You will carry a lot of doubt. You will go through a YOLO phase (you will be glad to know it did not last long). You will search for peace externally. People will disappoint you. They will question your belief in humanity. Forgive them. They are growing up as well.
If I am been truly honest with you you will not remember what the fuss was all about. 16 will soon be a fuzzy year do not take it that seriously. The problems you believe are big now will not make any sense to you 6 years down the line. You will become a stranger to your past. (do you remember who you were at 10). It is called growth.
Stop going through life like you are an island. JUST STOP. Speak to someone, anyone. Ask to go to therapy. It is not just for crazy people. Look for an older confidant. Open up to others. Stop hurting in silence. Although, do not go to your friends as much as they mean well, they are in the same dirt you are. How can two people who are stuck in the same mud help each other?
The next 4 years through University you shall refine who you are. Realize friends do not determine who you are. Plus, eventually down the line you will LOVE your own company. You will not have a problem sitting and having lunch on your own. I know it is a big NO right now. Give it time. You will enjoy your own mind.
Before I leave you, I feel it is important to state this. DO NOT DOWNPLAY YOUR BRAIN. I know you do that a lot. DO NOT HIDE BEHIND YOUR OWN SHADOW. You will soon realize you are a big deal. Start owning it now.
Lastly, slow down. Enjoy the freedom. Enjoy been 16 and the only responsibility you have is to ensure you are dressed before you live the house. Be in the moment. I know you tend to feel older. You are not. Act your age. Do not fast forward life. The 20s is a whole different playing field. I will catch you up once I am done with them.
Remember I love you and you should love you to.
The future you.
Until next time.